The date is set, venue booked, photographers booked (wink), and now you're starting to focus on the details of your big day. Standing next to you will be the best support group you can have - your girls, the Bridesmates, the pew crew, the marriage minions... aka, The Bridal Party. Don't torture them with ugly dresses. They're there to do a job too, so don't make them wear something they're uncomfortable in.
So... the search begins. You've spoken about it over glasses of wine, you've got your colour scheme and the girls are all squealing with excitement. Then along the way, you hit some walls. Tantrums in changing rooms erupt and you find yourself turning into a Bridezilla. Don't panic. I have come up with some helpful handy tips for every problem under the sun to make the process that little bit less stressful.
They can't agree on anything.
This is probably the most frustrating. Firstly it was the length, then it was the straps, poofy or tight fitting? The list goes on as you stand in the middle of Debenhams. They've tried on a dozen dresses, finally all agree on one and then you hear a distant whine of 'my arms look horrid'. Back to the drawing board. The best thing you can do is to give the girls a theme. A theme will make them all look consistent but gives each of them a chance to wear something unique to them, their fit and style. It doesn't matter if the theme isn't relevant to the wedding, just take it and run with it. So, what themes are there?
For any era themed dress, you can try hire shops! Perfect if you're on a budget. For 1950s style dresses, there's a wonderful shop in central Bury St Edmunds, down St Johns street called Pocket watch and Petticoats. From experience, I can say they're amazing - they made me feel so special from the moment I walked through the door. For everything else, hit the high street! Topshop have tons of sparkly things.
Here I am flailing about in my dress from Pocket watch and Petticoats :)
On a budget.
Two words: ASOS Outlet. If you search the sale and outlet section in 'going out dresses' you can pick anything up from £5 - £50. They even sell wedding dresses! Monsoon also have some steals :)
As far as I'm concerned, this piece of advice is gold. Tulle skirts are fab. They're girly, come in all lengths, colours and suit all body types. You can pick them up from ASOS anywhere between £5 - £15. You can pick them up from eBay too! Pair them with simple tops and you've got a sassy, budget friendly bridesmaid outfit and no one could tell ;)
When buying from eBay, make sure you check the shipping time.
They're just not that girly.
You were all on the football team and were in with the 'lads'. You live in jeans and t-shirts and can go weeks with no makeup (raises hand). As soon as you mention dresses and anything flowery, they all scrunch up their noses. Fine, you don't need to wear a dress to be a bridesmaid. Stick them in matching jumpsuits and brogues, and have them out boss the boys. Who wants an outfit with no pockets anyway?
They're buying their own dresses.
This one is tricky. In reality, you've relinquished control. The girls will all want something they can wear again, and you'll want something that fits within your 'vision'. The simple solution - let them wear black. Before you gasp in horror and start scrolling down, think about it. No one else should turn up at your wedding wearing black, so they'll stand out. You can accessorise it to hell and back (pink shoes and black dresses? Yes please) and the girls will be so relieved with something they chose and can wear again. Also, the contrast between black and white looks super cool in photos.
None of the above apply, I just want something really different.
Cool! A girl who isn't afraid of empowering her friends. You want you and the girls to blast through the doors of your venue and for everyone's jaw to drop. First things first, stop searching for Bridesmaid dresses and start searching for Prom dresses. Prom dresses are designed for instagram loving teenagers, who want to be the coolest girl in school. Ain't nothing wrong with that. Missguided do some really sassy ones - they literally have a 'prom dress' section: https://www.missguided.co.uk/dresses/prom-dresses. As do boohoo and again, ASOS (I do really love ASOS). Google is your new best friend in this case too.